Lot 6627

I have been coming here now for more than 23 years to stand in front of what is identified as "Lot 6627" at Arlington Cemetery but what represents the resting spot for the biggest loss I have endured in my life thus far.

It is hard to believe that I am now in my 45th year and David was only 24 when he left this world. His spot here lies between a Korean War Veteran who died in 2004 after a good long life and a Vietnam Vet who had been a prisoner of war and also missing in action and whose remains, when found were put to rest a few days after David's. I always tell that Vietnam POW to take care of David, thinking that he had been through so much hardship and suffering that he was very very wise and could help my daredevil friend. Or perhaps it would be the other way around.

Having David in my life, albeit for such a short time that was cut off so abruptly, has been a gift that cannot be compared to anything else.

The trees now are big, like they've been here all along. I remember when this was a newly filled part of Arlington Cemetery, sadly this Section 66 is now filled up and there are many more new sections getting filled. Just over the hill is the Sept. 11 memorial that stands near the Pentagon. A lot of sad stuff and sad memories rest with us in this world but by the grace of God we continue.

For years I've tried to put my thoughts into words about David, but it has been too difficult and it seems that my humble prose cannot begin to reflect or represent that time in my life. It still is difficult, but I guess these things age with you in a way that offers wisdom and vision.

I remember 23 years ago not knowing how I'd be able to continue on with such sadness, but I have. I wake up every day thinking of David. But I've had a very full life, I am raising a family and I've never moved backward on this road called life.

Love endures. It brings you joy like nothing else and it can tear you apart but it endures. That is good.

FIVE FAVORITE THINGS:
1. moving forward, really
2. a heart that will mend
3. a strong will
4. good iced tea
5. not having to always list a B: when you have an A: point.